Finally, something i can share w/the class

[tinpra]

First things first: Yuletide post in. What have I gotten myself into. Will be re-reviewing this fandom hardcore.

Second things: So as I've been hinting at over the last few weeks that I've been dating this guy. Well dating might be too strong a word seeing as how today was our second date.

We were set up by an elder at my church who has literally known me since before I was born. He does work for her and seemed like a good guy. In her own words, if she'd be happy if her own daughter was dating him. So he comes well recommended. The elder put us in contact w/each other and we worked out a first date. Which failed because I pulled my achilles tendon (and thanks again to moony_blues for the advice that kept me able to stand at work). So we rescheduled to the coming Tues and went to Applebees. We started talking on a Tues, we finally saw each other on the next Tues. And we talked every day in between.

Can I tell you that except for the ppl I chat with regularly (and you 3 know who you are) I don't talk to any of my friends on a daily basis? Not my bff's, not my gram whom I love dearly, and during a crazy week sometimes not even my mother whom I see daily. But I talked to him everyday. That next Sun, he showed up at my church. Luckily for me I was ushering and couldn't really interact. Then we set a date for this Sat. And we've talked every day in between.

I haven't minded talking to him, but it's kinda intense for me. It's very clear that he's interested, but I'm not sure if he's interested b/c he thinks I'm cute (a flattering thought) or b/c he's interested in who I am. Talking to him today, it sounds like it's really b/c he thinks I'm cute. He's not into novels, he's not into scifi/fantasy, he's not into music, he's not into fashion. I think I could talk Mythbusters to him, or anything similar on Nat Geo or Discovery, etc.

He, and many of my RL friends, seem to waiting for me to declare that he's the one, or to start seriously dating him. All this talking makes the fact that we've only had 2 dates seem weird. He really could kinda drop off and I don't think I'd be hurt by it. My pride might be stung, but there isn't a real attachment on my side. Plus I'm not one to jump into a relationship, either romantic or platonic. On occasion I've charismatically drawn to someone, but that's not the norm for me. I don't like to let attractiveness determine what I feel about someone. (Hopefully that's also true about unattractiveness.) Cute people are eye-candy until they prove to be someone worth talking to, then they can become attractive. He seemed to be of the opposite opinion about this.

Anywho, I talked to Mom about it and she suggested telling him, very nicely, that I need more time to work out how I'm feeling, etc, and that he basically needs to give me more space.

And that's the whole sordid tale, flist.

Maybe I should lock this one....

Comments

[jaguarx13.livejournal.com]

I think your mom is a very wise woman.

[tinpra.livejournal.com]

:) She is rather nifty